Most of us chase degrees and achievements thinking that’s success. But what if becoming your authentic self matters more? One question about failure changes everything: “What can I learn?” instead of “Why aren’t I good enough?”
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What if everything you were taught about success is keeping you stuck?
Most of us chase degrees, skills, and achievements thinking that’s the path forward. But Attila B. Horvath’s Chapter 7 in “The Journey” completely flips this on its head.
The real breakthrough? What he calls “individuation” – becoming your authentic self instead of what everyone expects you to be. Not following the cookie-cutter path your parents or society mapped out.
Here’s the shift that changes everything: when you mess up, do you ask “Why am I not good enough?” or “What can I learn from this?” That single question determines whether you grow or spiral.
Horvath shows you how to see failure differently. Not as proof you’re inadequate, but as growth opportunities. Each setback becomes data for your next move.
The chapter focuses on taking responsibility for your choices and viewing failures as chances to level up rather than reasons to quit. It’s about building virtues and embracing the messy process of learning.
What hits hardest is realizing your most important development happens in areas school never covered. The stuff about wisdom, real self-discovery, and success that comes from aligning with deeper principles instead of just collecting achievements.
This isn’t feel-good fluff. This is practical thinking for building a life that actually means something.
Ready to question everything you thought you knew about growth?
For more about Chapter 7 of Attila B. Horvath’s book, “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21”, visit https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.
