Time felt like it was slipping away until I learned to use cognitive empathy on myself. Now moments actually expand and time doesn’t feel rushed anymore.
The story
Before: Time felt like it was slipping through my fingers. Days blurred together, deadlines crashed into each other, and I was always playing catch-up.
After: Now I can actually feel moments expand. I notice the weight of my coffee cup, the sound of rain on the window, the pause between my thoughts. Time doesn’t feel rushed anymore.
What changed? I learned how to use cognitive empathy to shift my relationship with time itself.
Most people think empathy is just about understanding others. But there’s a deeper layer – using that same awareness to observe your own experience in real time.
When you’re stressed about time, you’re not actually present. You’re mentally somewhere else – worrying about what’s next or replaying what just happened. Your brain creates this frantic feeling that time is scarce.
But when you slow down and really notice what’s happening right now – your breathing, the temperature of the air, the texture of whatever you’re touching – something shifts. Time stops feeling like it’s running away from you.
Scott’s Chapter 23 in “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind” breaks this down perfectly. He shows you how to use the same skills you’d use to understand someone else’s feelings to tune into your own relationship with time.
It’s not about meditation or breathing exercises. It’s about training your brain to be where you actually are instead of where you think you should be.
The result? Time becomes your ally instead of your enemy.
